My poor brother got mercilessly bullied too. The bullies can certainly pick those of us who are a bit different. As an adult, it’s hard to understand how the bullies can think that these nasty things elevate them in some way. A weird peer pressure? Are they taught at home that this is how you make yourself appear ‘better’ than others?
I was at a Club recently and some fellow was ‘teaching’ his kids that this sort of nastiness was acceptable. It was happening behind me and I heard about it secondhand or I probably would have gotten up and intervened. I can’t wrap my head around how anyone can think that sort of behaviour is acceptable! Heartbreaking.
Anyway, thanks for sharing these memories. I hope that young lady is having a wonderful life. I hope that you also have found happiness. Take care dear fellow. Sending heaps of hugs and best wishes. 🤗🤗
I've always believed that bullies are people who aren't very happy with themselves. They try to tear down others in order to feel 'bigger and stronger' when in fact they're weak, scared, and probably sad. Of course that doesn't give them the right to hurt others. And the bad part is they often grow up into adult bullies.
I despise the behavior and am sorry that you and so many others have suffered. Our society needs to send a clear, loud message that bullying won't be tolerated and figure out how to teach these people empathy and compassion.
I spent five years at my secondary school and hated every minute of it because of the incessant bullying, so I empathise. I think in my school to not be bullied you had to be (a) be very sport, but I hated sport and was useless at it; and (b) be very extrovert, which i'm not; and (c) not like reading and culture etc, which I do. That girl sounds like a nice person.
If I had gone to your school, I would have eaten lunch with you. I was somewhat popular in high school, but bullied in middle school because I had a kidney disease and took lots of medication that made me gain a lot of weight and look very swollen and puffy. And a lot of my hair fell out. My dad told me not very long ago that I was always kind to people who got bullied, and he believes it was because I understood what it felt like. Thanks for sharing your story, Matt.
Bullying is awful, Matt - I can totally relate. I like to think we'd've buddied up for lunch, you and I!
Hurrah for the blonde girl - how very kind.
My brother and I were always much bigger than any of our peers - by 'big', I mean 'tall'. In the case of physical violence from other kids - threatened or real - we would never fight back for fear of getting into trouble for being seen to be picking on anyone smaller than us. Sad but true.
My poor brother got mercilessly bullied too. The bullies can certainly pick those of us who are a bit different. As an adult, it’s hard to understand how the bullies can think that these nasty things elevate them in some way. A weird peer pressure? Are they taught at home that this is how you make yourself appear ‘better’ than others?
I was at a Club recently and some fellow was ‘teaching’ his kids that this sort of nastiness was acceptable. It was happening behind me and I heard about it secondhand or I probably would have gotten up and intervened. I can’t wrap my head around how anyone can think that sort of behaviour is acceptable! Heartbreaking.
Anyway, thanks for sharing these memories. I hope that young lady is having a wonderful life. I hope that you also have found happiness. Take care dear fellow. Sending heaps of hugs and best wishes. 🤗🤗
I've always believed that bullies are people who aren't very happy with themselves. They try to tear down others in order to feel 'bigger and stronger' when in fact they're weak, scared, and probably sad. Of course that doesn't give them the right to hurt others. And the bad part is they often grow up into adult bullies.
I despise the behavior and am sorry that you and so many others have suffered. Our society needs to send a clear, loud message that bullying won't be tolerated and figure out how to teach these people empathy and compassion.
I spent five years at my secondary school and hated every minute of it because of the incessant bullying, so I empathise. I think in my school to not be bullied you had to be (a) be very sport, but I hated sport and was useless at it; and (b) be very extrovert, which i'm not; and (c) not like reading and culture etc, which I do. That girl sounds like a nice person.
If I had gone to your school, I would have eaten lunch with you. I was somewhat popular in high school, but bullied in middle school because I had a kidney disease and took lots of medication that made me gain a lot of weight and look very swollen and puffy. And a lot of my hair fell out. My dad told me not very long ago that I was always kind to people who got bullied, and he believes it was because I understood what it felt like. Thanks for sharing your story, Matt.
Bullying is awful, Matt - I can totally relate. I like to think we'd've buddied up for lunch, you and I!
Hurrah for the blonde girl - how very kind.
My brother and I were always much bigger than any of our peers - by 'big', I mean 'tall'. In the case of physical violence from other kids - threatened or real - we would never fight back for fear of getting into trouble for being seen to be picking on anyone smaller than us. Sad but true.
Thank you for such a thought-provoking post!